I think relationships are *all about* hiding bits of ourselves that would freak out or just generally annoy our significant other. How many science fiction stories have there been about how dreadful it would be if we could read each others' minds? A society of total openness would be hell.WinterRose wrote:Relationships aren't about having to hide bits of yourself away from the other. They're about honesty and communication, or they're doomed from the start.
Here's a few thoughts I would never tell my girl.
Because I am a man, I have these piggish thoughts, but I don't share them.
"I wish your breasts were more perky."
"You're pretty but you're no supermodel."
"Your laugh is kind of annoying to me, but I'll deal with it."
"Are those crow's feet around your eyes getting bigger?"
"That meal was about 2 out of 5 stars, but thanks anyway for cooking."
"I wanna have a menage-a-trois with your younger, cuter sister."
"I wish you had an "on/off" switch"
..and the like
Perhaps this is one of the key drives for wanting a gynoid. Because she is perfect, you will never have the thoughts above. Any point of complaint could be rebuilt or reprogrammed... making life much easier than having to learn to live with imperfection. A great fantasy.
Sure, there a some great partners who will accept this harmless fetish, but most will probably be freaked out by it, ruining an otherwise good relationship. We ask not to be judged on our fantasies, but should we judge others for finding our fantasies disturbing?
Hopefully, we are in strong relationships where we can predict whether our partners will be freaked out or not by this revelation. If you can't even begin to guess what your partner's tolerance level is, then you need more time together.
We can also reveal things a step at a time. For example, "I want to draw/paint a picture of you." leads to a basic freeze scenario of posing for the picture.. from which you can gage the reaction of your partner to being frozen, or posed a bit by you.. with no pressure on the partner to "perform", and the activity is widely accepted as romantic. If it goes well, you can move on... There are other games...
Luckily, there are so many facets or ASFR that can be made into acceptable games, whereas other fetishes are fairly take-it-or-leave-it.
A good partner will cooperate in your games, and might even figure out your fetish on their own.. which gives them the freedom to accept it fully, or just play along to keep you happy, because he/she loves you. If your partner seems uncomfortable with your games, then you have your answer, and you haven't ruined your relationship over this fetish.
Gradual expsoure to new ideas is always easier to accept. It almost makes me cry to see people pleading in the forum for the best way to blurt out, "I wanna have sex with robots! I wish YOU were a robot!" (well, basically that's it, isn't it?) and expect instant acceptance. It's like playing Russian roulette with your relationship.
Sadly, wishing for our sexual fantasies to be accepted by everyone is itself a fantasy that will probably take even longer to come true than the appearance of gynoids.
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