Sharing your love of fembots with a loved one

[powderjunkie56]

I was wondering if anyone here has had any experience telling a wife or girlfriend about their love of fembots. My wife and I have been together for quite a few years now and I have been keeping this from her the entire time. Ultimately, I would like to do role plays and things of that nature but, of course, I need to tell her first. I've thought about using the Wiki as an introductory tool to show her some images or a video or two like the Becky Bot video or the recent Horror Hotel "Tilt" video (which I love since my wife has a striking resemblance to the fembot in that video). I'm really nervous about discussing this with her but also very excited about the possible prospects. Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!

[dale coba]

Parallels: tv/movies where a sexual fetish is revealed to a partner, and is treated as a positive, harmless, non-pathological quirk.

Bob's Burgers - "It Snakes a Village". Bob's father-in-law confesses he's been too embarrassed to tell his wife about the balloon-popping fetish he's had all the years they've been together.

It's not as big a theme nowadays, but in decades past there were numerous plots where men had to confront sharing the truth of their love of wearing feminine undergarments with their wives.

Everybody, if you can think of an example, chime in.
Latex? Clowns? Being watched?
Even basic roleplay like nurse or schoolgirl would be a big adjustment for some couples
(no threesomes; no scat or crush fetish)

- Dale Coba

[smalk]

it was not easy, but it was worthy.

everyone has a fetish. it is far better to leave the unnecesary shame.

she don't thrill acting as my little gynoid, but now and then she consent.

[RoxxyRobofox]

I think if it's something that you really want to practice with her then you should go for it! I don't think you should show her any videos unless she asks, just make sure you can explain what you like concisely and make sure that she knows that you're just sharing and if she's not into it then it's cool.

[33cl33]

I've told a couple of past girlfriends... It was pretty much always in a "I'll tell you my biggest quirk if you tell me yours" situation. Never regretted telling them. Though, it's a low stakes thing for me, I'm not particularly interested in role-play. More of a, "Hey, this turns me on - but you don't really need to do anything about it"

I fall into the category of some folks on here who don't fantasize about their loved one being a machine... So it places a lot less pressure on her I guess?

Anywho - I too suggest being open about it, or it could turn into a divisive element in your relationship. I withheld it in my first marriage, and I felt it may possibly have become (one of the many) issues that led to us splitting up.

[jolshefsky]

I'd look into some archives of Dan Savage's Savage Love column – a sex advice columnist with a sex-positive, kink-positive attitude. He gives advice frequently of this ilk, such as the second letter in this column.

Attempting to paraphrase his general advice correctly, do tell your partner. One good way is to wait for an opportunity like when you're watching a movie or TV show together with a robot woman. Bring it up in a neutral way – maybe, "I think that's kind of sexy" or "do you think that's hot?" (but definitely not in a negative way: "wouldn't it be weird to want to have sex with robots?") See how your partner responds. It would be unfortunate if it was strongly negative, but if it's lukewarm or (if you're lucky) strongly positive, go on from there – reveal more about yourself and your kink.

I started telling girlfriends I've had. They're usually willing to try, but role playing doesn't work so well for me, so we don't try things very often. If I had to do it again, I think the first episode of Jon Davis Gets a Sex Bot is funny without being derisive to fetishists.

[powderjunkie56]

I really appreciate all the great advice. I'll let you know how it goes. In the mean time, keep the suggestions coming.

[--NightBattery--]

You might want to start with "doll" than robot, is less invasive and even looks cute

[justanordinarygirl]

My recommendation would be to start slow. Introduce the very basics. See what she thinks and let her get accustomed to a couple things. If that works for both of you, introduce something a little more detailed...wash, rinse, repeat. That's how my husband did it and it worked really well for us