Robotman wrote:Do you not understand that this person wished to remain anonymous? What makes you think your curiosity overrides their privacy?
The lack of empathy in this thread has been shocking.
RM, with all respect, it's almost impossible to show empathy or respect to someone who not only made an anonymous complaint, but to even react to a complaint that only one person - or maybe a few if Kishin shared - has even
seen. Obviously Kishin isn't a liar, and we know you've got the best interests of the community at heart, but I think what a lot of people (self-inclusive) are taking umbrage to is that all we got was a, "This vague complaint has been levied against the community, and instead of doing any due diligence to find out how much of this is validated by other content creators, we're going to try to guilt and shame our community into 'fixing' this possible issue."
While it's great that you and Kishin want to take an active role as go-betweens, there's a reason that mediators are never part of the group they mediate
for. It's too easy for the group to see them as traitors, or holding a conflict of interest, and interpreting everything said in a bad light because of that. You want to act as neutral third parties, but that's not a possibility: You're embedded in the community, like it or not, and your words to it hold more weight because of that reason.
I personally wish the anonymous sender had come out publicly and said, "I/we are having a feedback issue. I/we don't get X, Y, or Z that we would need to consider continuing with the community, and I/we'd love to open a dialogue to find out what's going on." Much cleaner conversation, it
wouldn't have pit the community against itself, and everyone could have cleared the air without putting you or Kishin in a bad spot like you are now. Now mind you, if someone wanted to fracture the community, this is definitely the way to do it.
All that's left for me is to say that this has left a very bitter flavor in my mouth. It's why I rarely posted to Usenet and avoided IRC, and apparently has continued on to the forums and other community areas. Disappointing.